Ever have one of those days where nothing seems to be going right? You become frustrated, upset, and ask, 'why me?'
You're not alone.
Many care partners or loved ones with a person with dementia in their life often experience these same feelings - and that's okay. Nothing will ever be perfect, and that's something we have to accept as human beings.
So, how can we accept a bad day and move forward with a positive attitude?
Remember your purpose.
Remind yourself of all of the things that you do for your loved one and think about how you would want to be treated if you were in their position. Remember the old saying, treat others how you would want to be treated? That can be applied to dementia. While caring for someone living with dementia can be exhausting, it can also be so fulfilling and rewarding. Reflect on those special moments that you have shared together and continue on.
This is much easier said than done. Remind yourself what you're grateful for each and every day. It's a great reminder and allows you to reflect on the good things in life when you might experience some negative moments. Write them down in the morning and this will start your day off on the right foot.
Take a deep breath and continue.
If you feel like nothing is going right - take a deep breath. Walk away and change your headspace. Come back with fresh eyes and a good attitude, this will take away those negative feelings and help you continue on with the task at hand.
Keep in mind that it's nobody's fault.
Someone once told me that dementia is the 'uninvited guest', and I think this is true. While dementia is a progressive condition that most people do not wish for, it is nobody's fault. Make the most of special moments and continue to connect with a person with dementia because they are still here.
What are some things you're grateful for? Share with us in the comments below.